You Can Go and Love Yourself
We’re taking self-care and taking a leaf from Justin’s Bieber’s book with Valentine’s Day only a few days away!
I’m going to skip the over-used oxygen mask on an airplane analogy (you gotta put yours on first so you can help others, people) and go STRAIGHT to the just-as-cheesy-yet-vastly-more-helpful-and-less-commonly-referred-to cup analogy.
Here it is…
You’re a cup (Vase? Chalice? Solo cup? You do you!) and you’re sitting under a faucet. The water streaming out of the faucet is made up of ALL of the things you do to take care of your mind and your body like…
- Eating whole, nutritious foods
- Getting enough sleep
- Crushing workouts on the reg
- Reading a book before bed
- Going for a mid-day brain break walk (my personal fav!)
- Getting outside on the weekends
- Journaling, meditating or your version of self-reflection
These are self-care necessities and they are usually the FIRST to go when we’re primarily focused on taking care of others.
These things fill your cup. They’re the fountains of joy, peace, and groundedness in your life and if you’re like me, you catch yourself POURING from your cup into the cups of others.
Your family, your friends, your community, your coworkers… You name it and you pour. Even when you pour because you WANT to… not because you feel like you “have to”, that water will run out. It is inevitable.
I want to make it EXTREMELY clear that there is nothing wrong with being a giving person. As a daughter, mother, sister, or friend you will WANT to give to those around you and that is a beautiful, needed thing. Life is about creating trusting relationships with others. It is about community, family, and building trust.
But here’s the thing…
Self-CARE is Not Self-ISH
When you try to run your car on empty you’re sure to crash, burn and breakdown.
I’m here to let you in on a little secret…
You can still fill the cups of others without pouring and finding yourself empty with nothing left to give.
When you prioritize the things that bring you joy and keep your cup full, your cup will OVERFLOW into the cups of others.
You’ll come to your interactions from a place of love and abundance instead of stress and scarcity.
I don’t know about you but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that every. single. one. of my interactions are better when I am coming from a place of love.
Instead of ONLY focusing on other people this week, focus on YOU too.
Love up yourself.
Take yourself on a date, buy yourself some yummy chocolate and enjoy it slowly in the bathtub, be present with yourself the same way you’d be present with a loved one or hot dinner date;)
Identify your joy fountains – whether it is a person or an experience – and intentionally plan at least ONE experience with something or someone that brings you joy into your routine.